Your marriage wasn't the greatest near the end. How could things that were once great have gotten so bad? The two of you were so happy together - now you are completely miserable. Even after divorce, you CAN win your wife back. Here are some tips to help you.
One of the very worst things that you can do to get your wife back is to beg her to give it another chance. I know, you've heard it before, but it's so true.
Depending on how long you've been divorced, you are going to come up against emotions. If you've just recently gotten divorced, you are going to have a very hard time trying to talk to her - let alone get back together with her. BUT...
When you give these emotions a little bit of time to settle down, your chances of getting her back become so much better.
How much time? That really depends on how bad your divorce was, and how the two of you handled it.
Try to talk to her. Keep it simple. Either say hi to her when you see her (in person), or give her a call. If you get her voicemail, leave a message. Just let her know that you are thinking about her.
Give it some time, and try again. When she DOES talk, stay as polite as you can. Treat things like you did when you first met. There will be a flood of emotions that you both are going to feel, but this is normal - and it will pass.
When your ex wife sees that you are giving things a little bit of time, she will see that maybe the two of you DO have a chance of working things out.
The love that the two of you shared was strong - despite what has happened between you, that love is still there. It will come back once the two of you can relax with each other again.
When the two of you DO start talking again, remember to not argue with her. No matter how much you may want to bring up the problems that were in your marriage, even to try to straighten things out, don't do it.
You want to start building a NEW relationship with her. Do it slowly and steadily. Start with a friendship and work your way up. Don't think too far into the future - enjoy ever minute you have with her.
The best way to win your wife back is to show her that you want to be with her. Show her that you enjoy spending time together. Let her see that the two of you don't have to argue when you're with each other - you CAN have fun together.
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