Divorce and How to Recover From It - The First Step

Divorce for men is a hearth wrenching time with an incredible effect on your emotions, your motivation and at the core of it - your identity as a man in our society. Divorce, and how to recover form it for guys, is not something that is talked about enough either to help men struggling to cope. Men themselves must bear much of the blame though as we are not very willing to find help ourselves out of fear of being labeled weak.

The truth is that most divorced guys completely understand what you are going through as we have been there ourselves. Not only that, the stoic man stereotype is not something that you should model yourself on when you are in distress. The repercussions of repressing those feelings come out in very bad ways such as alcoholism, anger, violence, domineering and all sorts of other nasty side effects.

So the first bit of advice is to get some help, don't push it all down inside you. You can get help in a number of ways:

Family - Your own flesh and blood are usually the best place to go and will be more understanding and know you and usually want to help. Not everyone has a good relationship with their families of course but it might also be a chance to heal old wounds as well. The old saying blood is thicker than water is largely true Friends - As manly as we like to appear to our friends, not everyone is uncomfortable with talking about their feelings and emotions. Even if your friends are, just having friends to support you in other ways just so you know you have someone who has your back in this time is important. Online - A good place to start as you are obviously here. Other places such as forums and social websites with a relationship, self help or divorce slant can be good to connect with others in the same situation. Support Centres - There are not all that many around but many states and countries in general have a few places dedicated to helping men after divorce. There are also many other that specialise in depression and so forth. They are all very understanding and empathic to your situation so don't shy away if you really need that help!

There is so much more to cover of course, but the first thing is being willing to get some help because it is not possible to get through this quickly on your own no matter how self sufficient you think you are. If you want to get started somewhere anonymously to get your head around this entire divorce idea and how you should be moving forward despite the pain and suffering, click below to visit my website and learn more about recovering from divorce.