Divorce for men is good for the man? I can imagine this might shock you if you are divorced and are living in post-divorce hell. The truth is that it CAN be good for you if you let it be good for you. Confusing right? Let me explain further.
Every experience in life is something that you can learn from. Everything we do, be it good or bad gives us valuable insight into yourself and life itself. When things are going well though we do not usually take note - and when things are bad we often wallow in self pity and ignore the lessons that can be learned.
The problem for divorced men is that they feel nothing good can come out of a divorce and will actively try to find more reasons why their divorce is bad. This is self pity and victimisation at its worst. I am not saying it is not understandable; it is a phase we all go through. Getting stuck here and not learning from the marriage and divorce so you get a head start on your new life - that is the issue.
What you need to do is to put aside the self pity and look at what can be learned from this experience. Also put aside the victimisation so that you can look to see how you can grow and be better and not focus on what has been done to you. Divorce can be good if you allow the wisdom from the experience to sink in and then you are free to live your life and find a new and better path as so many divorced guys who know this have.
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