Monday, December 6, 2010

How to Get a Girlfriend for Divorced Men

After a divorce, men should stop and think what lesson was learned from the ordeal. Thoughts may turn to the life skills that might need to be redeveloped and the know how to get a girlfriend may be one of those skill sets that need a little dusting off and rejuvenating. If men stop and think about what is really important regarding getting back into the dating game and attracting beautiful women, it will not be a scary prospect.

Here are three little known dating tips for men after divorce

Nice Guys Repel Women

After a divorce, men sometimes take more notice of couples they see. They see beautiful women out with men who do not seem to be the woman's equal when it comes to looks, behavior, and character. What is the attraction between the two that make up that unlikely couple? If you are thinking it is a bulging wallet and a bulging zipper, you may be way off track.

It is true; women are looking for a nice guy. They are looking for a man that will treat them right with respect. They want a guy that will fit into their world and be accepted by all without question. Women do not always get what they want in a man and settle for something less.

The secret to know how to get a woman after divorce is to not be the nice guy. Nice guys cater to a woman's whim.

What women want and what they are attracted to is a man that has his own direction that is not her. By contrast, a "nice guy makes her his life. Bad, bad, bad. Nice guys finish last. That's why I have always said to make yourself more important than her by creating a great lifestyle.

Getting Rejected Is Your Best Friend

No man alive has ever had 100 percent success with women. Not even Sam Malone. So, how is any advice going to give you the know how to get a girlfriend after divorce? Some of the advice works for some people, but not all advice works for all people. The trick is to find the things that work, implement those things, fine tune when necessary, and discard those things when they no longer work.

The only way to find the bits of advice that works is to get out and ask women for a date. You will no doubt get many no's but that is not the worst that can happen. Being totally ignored is probably the worst that can happen. The more you ask the more yes's you will get.

Neediness Is A Poverty Mentality

Most divorced men have no clue how to get a girlfriend. Men put away some of their social skills when they marry, mostly at the behest of the women they marry! After divorce, men have to dust off those skills and jump start that part of their skill set. Women are a lot smarter, socially, than men. Until a guy has his social skill set all revved up and ready to go, they may appear desperate.

Women can sense any level of desperation and that is one of women's greatest social skills.

To get a great looking woman, don't be a dork, a creep or appear needy. Be the guy that is different. Be the guy that knows the woman social value and will work to be at least a bit higher in social value than the woman. You can do this belief wise.

If you follow these 3 items, you will have a ton of women wanting to be their boyfriend.

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