Knowing about divorce recovery for men and how to get it is more than just a simple set of tips and ideas you can use. It requires a deeper understanding of the psychology of a man after divorce to be able to change your entire world view to accommodate this massive change in your life.
So what support and information do you need to know to really recover from divorce fast? Below are a few things you need to look into to get to the crux of the issue.
Self Esteem
As you can imagine or probably know first hand, your self esteem hits an all time, record low after a divorce. You may feel you have lost a certain amount of power, of your manhood and so forth. Your self worth is at rock bottom and this causes more of an issue than the depression and anger that it produces.
Low self esteem leads to men trying to boost it. This does not sound like a bad thing but there are few things to consider. The purpose of this esteem boosting is usually to make yourself feel more powerful, sexier, and more confident and so forth. The problem is that this is usually just a short term self esteem boost that quickly dwindles away leaving no lasting impression. This leads to more and more efforts to make yourself feel good and it become like a drug you need more and more of. This leads to you needing a different model to feel good which is:
Self Respect
While self esteem relies on other peoples praise or things to happen to make you feel better about yourself it can also be destroyed by other people and circumstance. Self respect is the principle that only YOU can make yourself happy. It is the concept that you need to like yourself and respect yourself for who you are so that you can always feel at peace no matter what outside influences happen. This takes longer to cultivate but it is more powerful and more effective for all parts of your life and especially overcoming divorce!
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