Forgetting The Ex-Wife After Your Divorce

Forgetting the ex wife after divorce seems so easy for some men who move on without a backwards glance, but for most men it is an ongoing struggle that is difficult to overcome because of so many reasons.

Feelings of guiltAnger over past argumentsRegret for the things you or her have saidWanting to try to find some meaning in all of thisLonging, pure and simple

All these things keep the memories of your ex wife in the fore front of your mind. Your moods and state of mind are greatly affected by this and you may feel you cannot control what you are thinking about when something triggers you into remembering times past.

This is a dangerous state to be in. You are not controlling your thoughts, intrusive thoughts are control you, and influencing your decision making process. This instils a huge amount of negativity into your life which is like a snowball effect on the negativity that is already around you!

There are ways you can deal with this of course. Long term you need to come to terms with your divorce, accept it, forgive your ex wife and yourself and move on; this is a long process.

Short term you can train your mind to not be so influenced by stray thoughts and recurring memories. This involves a fair bit of repetition as any training does, but with certain mental techniques you can lower the intensity of those memories and feelings allowing you to function better and really get to the core of the issue.

For instance, if you are remembering a situation where you felt really bad and you keep going through it, try to actively remember this memory bit with a twist. Try to view it from the view of someone else watching. Take yourself out of your own body and feel all that negative energy that would have been directed at you, be directed at that image of yourself that you are watching. This can take the sting out of that memory so it will not bother you as much and you might also gain some insight into the situation as well.