If your husband has asked you for a divorce, that doesn't have to be the end of the marriage. You can get your husband back. Getting through the time after he asks you for divorce can be the darkest time of your life, but don't despair.
You may need to swallow your pride; you may have to swallow your pain. But it might be worth it. Do you cry all day? Do you talk of nothing else to your friends? Do you think about all the things you used to do together? Does it seem like every object in your house reminds you of him? Have you started to 'let yourself go?' Do you eat nothing but chocolate or ice cream? Do you bother to get out of your pajamas? When was the last time you had your hair done or a manicure or pedicure? Do you treat yourself like you're worth it, or not?
You don't know if your husband is happy to be gone. It's quite possible that he misses you too and regrets his decision to ask for divorce. Many couples have come back after separations to a stronger and better marriage. You will never know if that was possible for the two of you if you don't try to do something to get your husband back. But you don't want to mess up your chances. You don't want to go to him looking depressed and a mess. You need to think carefully about what the problem was and what is the best approach.
You can get help understanding both the problem and possible approaches to getting your husband back if you do some research. There are many advice books about relationships, break ups, divorce, and dodging divorce. These have become serious areas of study for psychologists. Finding the book that is right for you may help you get your husband back.
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