Men after divorce will always need some help and advice no matter how self sufficient and strong they are. The emotional strain that we go through as men cannot be downplayed even though society likes to do so. So never be ashamed to seek out help and advice!
This article will just cover one thing, the very first step that you must take to be free of the poisonous state that is post-divorce life. Even if it has been a while since your divorce and you are still struggling, this is a good point to really review as well.
Stop Any Denial!
The first stage of a divorce is denying the truth of it. This can be in the form of outright not believing it is happening - living in a fantasy basically. It can also be the thought in the back of your mind that this is wrong, that your wife will come back to her senses soon. It might just be a niggling feeling that something is just not right - which might sound fair enough but it is inhibiting you!
To still hold hopes and believe in your marriage even after the worst is a way of trying to hold on to your old identity, to fight against change, to keep the status quo. This is an action against change for the better and need to be wiped clean so you are free to feel the real emotions you have to feel. This will allow you to look at the entire process without preconceptions, with a clear mind and a less burdened heart.
Men after divorce need to not deny any part of the divorce and accept that it has happened and there is no turning back - ever. Moving forward and embracing change in your life is the only cure for your condition!
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